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Tuesday 8 June 2010

A bit of soul-searching



T
he recent spate of suicides among students and youngsters has set the alarm bell ringing.  The incidents look like a chain reaction, one case triggering another. A disturbing trend that has made us sit up and take notice.

     What is the reason behind it? Have our youngsters become so fragile? Have they lost confidence in them?  Are there any faults with the parents in bringing up the children? Let us do a bit of soul-searching.

Children should be reassured

     Mainly the children should not be trapped in the vicious circle of parental/peer pressure, competition, relationships and materialistic allure. The children should be reassured constantly. They should be told about the preciousness of life and the long journey that lay ahead. 

     Death should not be the means to vent one’s frustration. But the frustration/disappointment, if any, should give way to a new beginning. One should learn to move on in life. Overcoming the sudden impulse of taking one’s own life itself is a triumph.

     Instead of training the students for only a few educational goals in life, they should be made aware of the myriad other opportunities available to fall back upon in case they fail to reach it.

Let children live their dreams

     Parents should not induce a sense of guilt among their children for not realizing their (parents’) dreams for their children. The guilt-ridden fear of falling from the grace of parents, in fact, constantly chases them.  Realizing the children’s potential, they should be encouraged to study with realistic goals.

     Finally parents should learn to accept their children as they are.  This will pave the way for the children to accept themselves as they are without any complex.



Sunday 6 June 2010

Travails of a train travel

I
 was a bit conceited at my feat of securing tickets to travel to Mumbai from Udupi, that too at short notice.  This when people were making many attempts in vain to get a ticket in the peak season of May –June.

     Though the city of dreams is well-connected to Mangalore through road, rail and air, travelling by train is the most preferred mode of journey.  

     But my pride was like a bubble in the water. It did not last long.  My journey turned out to be rather a misadventure.   After trying unsuccessfully to book tickets from Udupi to Mumbai through the net, I had to approach an agent. He assured me that somehow he would pack me off to Mumbai.   I was not sure whether I would get tickets and which class we would be travelling by.

     In his office, he handed me a photocopy of the ticket booked for five persons. My name was supposed to be Nalini and my 11-year-old daughter was 18-year-old Ravi, and for my son there wasn’t any ticket. But he extracted almost full fare of the five tickets.

     His explanation was that he had to pay to those certain Nalini, Ravi, Shankar, Geetha …  to buy tickets from them. Though I was not so naïve to believe his story, I was obliged to keep my mouth shut, as I had “begged” him for tickets. And this beggar was fleeced royally.  All the tickets were booked for adults.  Not even a single ticket was booked in the name of a child or a senior citizen. The railways gained! 

      For the original copy of the ticket I was told to phone a person.  Mind you, all this was happening just half-an-hour before the arrival of the train. I was anxious a bit. First thing I did was making my children and myself comfortable on the platform and called the number given to me.

     My heart skipped a beat, when the person at the other end told me that he was in Bangalore. Following my explanation he said, “I have never been to that place.”  I hung up, though he wished to continue the conversation trying to find a solution for my problem.

      Again I called the agent asking for the number.  I got the number with the digits at their right places. Somehow I could meet the said person who was to give us the original ticket and the other three passengers, a couple and a student, all memorising their newfound identities.

     So much for the mafia.  You have to book the ticket months in advance if you are doing so online. But if you approach an agent even at the eleventh hour, you will get a ticket. But the price for doing so is, twice the actual fare or sometimes three times!  Make hay while the sun shines. 

     Many a time, my tickets were confirmed only on the morning of my journey that too at the last minute. Till then the agents wait for the gullible passengers. The commissioning of the Konkan railway about two decades back was expected to free the people from the clutches of  bus mafia,  but , alas,  now they are being  fleeced by  another tribe.

     Our second class compartment reminded me of Shashi Tharoor’s “cattle class”. The noisy compartment was brimming with people of all sorts.  The people returning after spending a long vacation with their nearests and dearests. The people who have attended the annual family poojas.  Those who attended weddings of their nephews, nieces and other relatives. You got to see the haggard faces of the men caught between the traditional matriarchal responsibilities and a family called theirs. 

     Poverty cutting short their dream for education,  these men who migrated to Mumbai, have seen to it that their siblings and nephews are taken care of and their nieces well settled after paying hefty dowries. True, Mumbai is the one-stop-solution for all their financial problems. Mumbai did not belie the dreams of these enterprising people.

      Sacks of coconut were stacked under the seats.  These very people who spend a fortune during their visit, take back a few coconuts worth a couple of hundred bucks. So much for their sentiment.  The smell of jackfruit wafted through the compartment. Perhaps the luggage outweighed the passengers.  A stark contrast to the journey etiquette. And there were people accommodating themselves near the toilet. There were people begging the TTE for a berth and some even trying to bribe him.

     When the TTE came, I sent my children to another end of the compartment. Fortunately, he was not insisting to see the passenger. Most of the children eligible for ticket in my compartment, I felt, were, like my son, ticketless.  Then it struck to me that the TTEs are hand in glove with the agents in their misdeeds.  That was why the agent was confident when I repeatedly asked him whether I would have any problem.

     My son and I were lying together in a single berth.   People slept on the floor.   When I woke up in the night, I could see a person staring at me sitting on the floor.  He looked decent but was made to travel in that manner for want of ticket. Even then, startled in the middle of the night, I could not help but checking my neck once. 

      The early morning ensued a clamour to alight.  A large family hurriedly alighted in Panvel. Their luggage was like a mound.  When I reached my destination, it was drizzling.  I was relieved to see my husband waiting for us.